Here’s a ‘behind the scenes’ look at the real contract written by the San Diego Polyamory Pod family.
This is a living document that has evolved with Kamala Devi and Michael’s open marriage over last 15 years, it has now expanded to include about a dozen polyamorous lovers.
If you’re opening up an existing relationship, it’s good for you to know what your partner is hoping to gain and vice versa.
Articulating why you want to be polyamorous will also help you navigate the times when it’s tough: You can look back at your goals and assess whether you’re moving toward them overall and whether working through the hard stuff is still worth it.
All partners are equals and enter into these relationship agreements in full awareness with informed consent.
Each individual is responsible for making their own decisions and considers the affects of their decisions on everyone they love.
Martha has her arm around her husband Moroni and is clucking like an indulgent hen as she tries to coax him into a better temper.
So you’ve been reading about polyamory and have decided it’s something you want to try.
Or maybe you’re still thinking about it, but don’t have a clear sense of where you’d even begin.
We understand that these relationship agreements are not all encompassing, and we may make verbal agreements in addition to these bottom lines.
Dyadic relationships may negotiate additional agreements and/or specific short term (temporary) agreements above and beyond what is listed here.