To the untrained dater it may appear rude or direct but it is a refreshing scene of playing with your cards on the table.Being successful in Dutch dating can require a level of assertiveness: if you want something, just do it.A Jewish friend of mine remarked once, only half joking, that he believed Indians are the true Chosen People. I lived in India for about three years and my husband (currently known as my hus Pad, thanks to his appropriating the i Pad he "gave me," -- but that is another column) is from New Delhi, which, in addition to providing me with lots of Indian friends and in-laws, have given me a pretty good perspective on the desirability of the people from the world's largest democracy -- and how to woo them. If you are pinched for time, you can simply claim SRK is your favorite and move on. You don't want your date to think that if things go south, you will resort to stalking.Before getting to "how," let's start with "why." There are obvious reasons one would want to date an Indian, such as how successful and professionally desirable they are. But, if you want to take some initiative, I highly recommend you familiarize yourself with some Bollywood actors and choose a favorite. Good luck and let me know how these suggestions work out.
However, some facts in the Dutch dating game remain true regardless of where you meet new people in the Netherlands.Both Dutch women and Dutch men are renowned for being straight-forward in conversation, and little social negativity is attached to asking personal questions or openly stating one's unsolicited opinion in the Netherlands.The Dutch tend to believe it is better to be honest than mislead someone.The man will offer to buy her another drink, and they will talk about German politics and how wet their shoes are.Many will read this and dismiss it as melodramatic, but I think that would be missing the point.