As a result, those relationships fizzle (or crash and burn) in similar ways. If so, read on for six expert tips on how to finally find someone who's just right for you. you choose, says psychologist Kelly Campbell, Ph D, an associate professor of psychology and human development at California State University, San Bernardino.
Rather than picking apart failed affairs to figure out what went wrong between the two of you, try turning your attention inward. When people have problems with their self-esteem, for example, they end up with partners who treat them poorly, because that’s what they think they deserve.
You may want to consider working with a therapist, or reading a good self-help book. “You need to have a standard that you’re living by,” Campbell points out.
(Look for one by an author with a Ph D, she urges.) But little self-care actions will help too, says Campbell, whether that's going on long runs or buying fresh flowers for your desk. “Otherwise you’re at a big risk to keep getting let down.” RELATED: 11 Ways to Re-Ignite the Spark In Your Relationship Think the importance of family, whether you want children, how you feel about healthy living.
Over the past five years, several sitessuch as Prescription4love.com, Nolongerlonely.com, and Cisforcupid.comhave launched to serve the needs of people with conditions ranging from bipolar disorder to Crohn's disease.
Together these sites now boast tens of thousands of members.
“Most of us with this don't wish to spread it.” Despiteor perhaps because ofthe economic downturn, the billion-dollar online dating industry has been booming. While sites like and e Harmony don't discriminate, they also don't cater to people like Lana who are coping with sexually transmitted diseases, disabilities, or mental health conditions.
If you belong to an organization that serves people with your particular illness, give your dating partner the Web site if he or she wants to know more.” “You should carefully consider to whom you entrust private medical information,” says Dr.
Vicki Rackner, a contributor to the Chicken Soup for the Soul Healthy Living series.
RELATED: 6 Reasons Masturbation Should Be a Part of Your Self-Care Routine Unless you have a clear sense of who you’re looking for, it’s easy to end up with someone who doesn’t make the grade, says Terri Orbuch, Ph D, author of She recommends literally jotting down 15 essential qualities for your mate. "Identify what those mean to you, and how important each one is," says Orbuch, so you can decipher if a potential partner has similar values early on.
And be specific: “People often tell me ‘I want someone who’s funny.’ But what does that mean? You can do that by talking openly about values, of course, and also by picking up on telltale hints.