So if you find yourself in such a predicament, just what do you say to an emotionally unavailable man to turn your relationship around?Author Kelsey Diamond sheds some light on this topic in her digital ebook, .And then, on the other side of the equation, you have us, commonly known as the “guarded” women.Which, when said out loud, seems like the ultimate paradox as the word “guarded” commonly goes hand in hand when talking about men.We hadn’t even made it official and he was talking about breaking up. When I saw him on a dating site six weeks after the split (after him telling me earlier that he didn’t want to see other people; he just wasn’t ready for a relationship), I panicked.He told me he didn’t want to lose me, nor did he want his baggage to ruin what we had. This lasted for all of about twenty-four hours when he ended it. I confronted him about it and he took no accountability for ending things the way he did.They can become touchy and defensive when certain people try to ask about their lives, like a lonely teenager may feel grilled and interrogated if his parents good-naturedly ask him about his friends, when he doesn't have any.There are two broad ways the problem can show up: However, and why, it is that someone's too guarded and self-protective, it's a self-defeating strategy.
I thought I was a pro at all of the tell tale signs. He came on very strong in the beginning, telling me he deleted his dating app after our first date, that he turned down other dates because he didn’t want to waste time with other girls, and showed me in more ways than one that I was his priority. Things were at the height of our relationship, and I use this word loosely because it really wasn’t a relationship.
Let me clarify five things you should know about the “guarded” girl: 1.
She’s not closed off; she’s just protecting herself I was more than often called “cold.” Which, to be honest, I don’t blame anyone but myself for.
There are topics they're uncomfortable with, and they're always a little on edge when they're socializing because they never know when they'll come up.
They may dread situations where their feared subjects are more likely to arise, like when their friends are all sitting around and drinking.